The last few days I have felt far from calm. Chloe is having what seems like another growth spurt and she seems to be either constantly attached to my chest or whining and rooting around to get on my chest. I love breastfeeding I really do but it’s not easy on days like this. My arms and back hurt and don’t get me started on my nipples. Owww. I’ve started re reading a book that my OH gave me years ago called ‘The Little Book of Calm’ written by Paul Wilson. I’ve found that some of the quotes and tips in the book really help me to take a step back and chill out.
One of my biggest problems is expecting too much of myself. This tip helps..I just need to reread it more!
Lower the crossbars: One of the greatest strains in life is constantly having to live up to the standards we set for ourselves. Do yourself a favour and from time to time relax those standards a little
So maybe I won’t always have an immaculate house or home cooked meals every day, maybe I won’t have sheeny, swingy hair all the time but as long as my family are happy and helps they that’s all that matters yes?
This next one is also important to me right now:
Snatch a couple of minutes: If you feel you need it, take brief cat naps throughout the day. You’ll be surprised at how much peace can come from a few minutes.
I rarely nap although I know I need to. I’m always tired which is how life is with a young baby but I do get opportunities to nap I just don’t take them. I am going to try to take advantage of it more even if just for 15 mins.
I love this next one:
Stockpile beautiful moments – write them down, keep a photo, keep a record in your computer. Recall these moments often, reflecting on them, taking pleasure in them, integrating them into your day to day routine and outlook
I’ve already started on this one, last week I ordered a few hundred photos and they arrived yesterday. I plan to put pics up around the house, keep some in my purse and just remember the happy moments of which there are lots.
Rest in a tub – A leisurely, warm bath soothes like no other method. Lower the lights, add a few drops of your favourite oil and you’ll be transported
I do try to have a relaxing bath each day, the therapist I saw after having Chloe advised it and I know it helps. What I am guilty of is using that short period of relaxation to reply to texts and emails. I need to learn to switch off so from now on no iPhone in the bath and lights dimmed so I can wind down. May have to treat myself to some new oils too.
There are lots more tips in the book and if you need to find some calm in your life I would recommend buying it.
Any tips for achieving calm?